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Prophet Muhammad never struck a woman or a servant or an animal. He never beat anyone for any reason and he never hit anything unless he was defending himself in battle.
Note: Some Anti-Islamic individuals who falsley Claimed The our Beloved Prophet hit his wive Aisha- She is by herself Reporting the following:
Aisha reported:
ู ูุง ุถูุฑูุจู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ุตููููู ุงูููููู ุนููููููู ููุณููููู ู ุฎูุงุฏูู ูุง ูููู ููููุง ุงู ูุฑูุฃูุฉู ููููุง ุถูุฑูุจู ุจูููุฏููู ุดูููุฆูุง
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, did not strike a servant or a woman, and he never struck anything with his hand.
Source: แนขaแธฅฤซแธฅ Muslim 2328, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
The Prophet warned us that Allah will retaliate on the Day of Judgment against those who wrongly beat others.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ู ููู ุถูุฑูุจู ุถูุฑูุจูุง ุงููุชูุตูู ู ููููู ููููู ู ุงููููููุงู ูุฉู
Whoever strikes someone will receive retribution for it on the Day of Resurrection.
Source: al-Adab al-Mufrad 185, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
Likewise, the Prophet warned us that Allah will punish those who torture others.
Hisham ibn Hakim reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ุฅูููู ุงูููููู ููุนูุฐููุจู ุงูููุฐูููู ููุนูุฐููุจูููู ููู ุงูุฏููููููุง
Verily, Allah will torture those who torture people in this world.
Source: แนขaแธฅฤซแธฅ Muslim 2613, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
Beating a servant and causing harm to him is a major sin. If a Muslim beats his servant, the Prophet commanded the servant to be set free.
Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ู ููู ุถูุฑูุจู ุบูููุงู ูุง ูููู ุญูุฏููุง ููู ู ููุฃูุชููู ุฃููู ููุทูู ููู ููุฅูููู ูููููุงุฑูุชููู ุฃููู ููุนูุชููููู
Whoever strikes his servant without limit or slaps him, then the expiation for the sin is to emancipate him.
Source: แนขaแธฅฤซแธฅ Muslim 1657, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
In the case of a wife who commits major sins, the Prophet gave permission for men to strike their wives without causing pain as a symbolic gesture intended as a last resort to correct her behavior.
Sulaiman ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ุฃูููุง ููุงุณูุชูููุตููุง ุจูุงููููุณูุงุกู ุฎูููุฑูุง ููุฅููููู ูุง ููููู ุนูููุงูู ุนูููุฏูููู ู ููููุณู ุชูู ูููููููู ู ูููููููู ุดูููุฆูุง ุบูููุฑู ุฐููููู ุฅููููุง ุฃููู ููุฃูุชูููู ุจูููุงุญูุดูุฉู ู ูุจููููููุฉู ููุฅููู ููุนููููู ููุงููุฌูุฑููููููู ููู ุงููู ูุถูุงุฌูุนู ููุงุถูุฑูุจููููููู ุถูุฑูุจูุง ุบูููุฑู ู ูุจูุฑููุญู ููุฅููู ุฃูุทูุนูููููู ู ููููุง ุชูุจูุบููุง ุนูููููููููู ุณูุจููููุง
I certainly enjoin you to treat women well for they are like your captives, and you do not have any right to treat them otherwise unless they commit a clear obscenity. If they do so, you may forsake their beds and then strike them without causing pain (ghayra mubarriแธฅ), but if they obey you then you may not do so.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhฤซ 1163, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
The โstrikingโ without pain is only a teaching mechanism intended to draw attention to the seriousness of major sins and reform bad behavior. It is not intended to punish, humiliate, or degrade the dignity of a wife, nor is it meant to injure or harm her. For this reason, classical scholars placed strict limits on this and recommended a man use nothing more than a handkerchief.
Al-Rฤzฤซ writes:
ุฃู ูููู ุงูุถุฑุจ ุจู ูุฏูู ู ูููู ุฃู ุจูุฏู ููุง ูุถุฑุจูุง ุจุงูุณูุงุท ููุง ุจุงูุนุตุง
It should be a striking with a folded handkerchief or his palm, and he should not strike her with whips or clubs.
Source: Tafsฤซr al-Rฤzฤซ 4:34
Nevertheless, the Prophet never did this himself and he criticized men who strike their wives harshly and without a just cause.
Abdullah bin Zamโah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ุจูู ู ููุถูุฑูุจู ุฃูุญูุฏูููู ู ุงู ูุฑูุฃูุชููู ุถูุฑูุจู ุงููููุญููู ุฃููู ุงููุนูุจูุฏู ุซูู ูู ููุนูููููู ููุนูุงููููููุง
How does one of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then embrace her?
Source: แนขaแธฅฤซแธฅ al-Bukhฤrฤซ 5695, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
Iyas ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ููููุฏู ุทูุงูู ุจูุขูู ู ูุญูู ููุฏู ููุณูุงุกู ููุซููุฑู ููุดูููููู ุฃูุฒูููุงุฌูููููู ููููุณู ุฃููููุฆููู ุจูุฎูููุงุฑูููู ู
Many women have come to the family of Muhammad complaining about their husbands hitting them. These men are not the best among you.
Source: Sunan Abฤซ Dฤwลซd 2146, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
Indeed, Allah has prohibited men from harming their wives as a means to correct their behavior.
Allah said:
ููููุง ุชูุถูุงุฑูููููููู ููุชูุถูููููููุง ุนูููููููููู
Do not harm them in order to straighten them.
Surat al-แนฌalฤq 65:6
If a Muslim man violates these strict limits and he abuses his wife, the Prophet considered this a just cause for divorce.
Yahya ibn Saโeed reported: Habeeba bint Sahl was the wife of Thabit ibn Qais ibn Shammas and it was mentioned to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, that Thabit had struck her so she appeared at the door of the Messenger of Allah. The Prophet said him:
ุฎูุฐู ู ูููููุง ููุฎูููู ุณูุจููููููุง
Take your dowry and let her go.
Source: Sunan al-Dฤrimฤซ 2200, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
Based upon this precedent, Muslim women deserve legal protection from abusive husbands and may seek a divorce in court.
Some people mistakenly believe that the Prophet abused Aisha because of her statement:
ููููููุฒูููู ููู ุตูุฏูุฑูู ููููุฒูุฉู ุฃูููุฌูุนูุชูููู
He nudged me firmly on the chest.
They have mistranslated the word here to mean a beating or striking, but the word used in this tradition is lahaza which means a nudge or a light push. How can it mean the Prophet shoved or hit her when she herself testifies that he never hit anything except when defending himself in battle?
This type of light contact was a common teaching mechanism of the Prophet, to grab the attention of his companions before delivering a lesson.
After the Prophet nudged her chest, he taught her the following supplication:
ููุฑูุญูู ู ุงูููููู ุงููู ูุณูุชูููุฏูู ูููู ู ููููุง ููุงููู ูุณูุชูุฃูุฎูุฑูููู ููุฅููููุง ุฅููู ุดูุงุกู ุงูููููู ุจูููู ู ูุงูุญูููููู
May Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us and those who will come later. If Allah wills, we will join them.
Source: Sunan al-Nasฤโฤซ 2307, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
This teaching mechanism is similar to how the Prophet would behave with his other companions.
Abu Dharr reported:
ููุถูุฑูุจู ุจูููุฏููู ุนูููู ู ูููููุจูู ุซูู ูู ููุงูู
The Prophet struck my chest with his hand and he saidโฆ
Source: แนขaแธฅฤซแธฅ Muslim 1825, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
This โstrikingโ is not meant to cause pain but rather to grab their attention before teaching an important lesson.
In all things, the Prophet recommended us to be kind and gentle to others, as kindness is given a special reward from Allah.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ุฅูููู ุงูููููู ุฑูููููู ููุญูุจูู ุงูุฑูููููู ููููุนูุทูู ุนูููู ุงูุฑูููููู ู ูุง ููุง ููุนูุทูู ุนูููู ุงููุนููููู ููู ูุง ููุง ููุนูุทูู ุนูููู ู ูุง ุณูููุงูู
Verily, Allah is gentle and He loves gentleness and he rewards for gentleness what is not granted for harshness. He does not reward anything else like it.
Source: แนขaแธฅฤซแธฅ Muslim 2593, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
We should be especially kind and gentle with our spouses and family members, as it is a sign of Allahโs favor.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ุฅูุฐูุง ุฃูุฑูุงุฏู ุงูููููู ุนูุฒูู ููุฌูููู ุจูุฃููููู ุจูููุชู ุฎูููุฑูุง ุฃูุฏูุฎููู ุนูููููููู ู ุงูุฑูููููู
If Allah the Exalted intends goodness for a household, he lets gentleness come over them.
Source: Musnad Aแธฅmad 23906, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
The Prophet enjoined kindness and gentleness even for the animals and he warned us not to beat them.
Aisha reported: I was upon a camel which was misbehaving so I began to strike it. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
ุนููููููู ุจูุงูุฑูููููู ููุฅูููู ุงูุฑูููููู ููุง ููููููู ููู ุดูููุกู ุฅููููุง ุฒูุงูููู ููููุง ููููุฒูุนู ู ููู ุดูููุกู ุฅููููุง ุดูุงูููู
You must be gentle. Verily, gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it.
Source: Musnad Aแธฅmad 24417, Grade: Sahih=Authentic
Therefore, we should do our best to emulate the example of the Prophet. He never hit a woman or a servant or an animal, and he never hit anything unless he was fighting in self-defense. The Prophet would be gentle, patient, forbearing, and forgiving with his family, his wives, his servants, and even the people who abused him.
Success comes from Allah, and Allah knows best.
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