Repel evil with good, win hearts of enemies


Repel evil with good, win hearts of enemies


Mohamad Mostafa Nassar

Twitter:@NassarMohamadMR

In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful

Allah has praised those who respond to evil with good deeds. Those who repel evil with good will find that their enemies will become their friends.

Allah said:

ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ุชูŽุณู’ุชูŽูˆููŠ ุงู„ู’ุญูŽุณูŽู†ูŽุฉู ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉู ุงุฏู’ููŽุนู’ ุจูุงู„ูŽู‘ุชููŠ ู‡ููŠูŽ ุฃูŽุญู’ุณูŽู†ู ููŽุฅูุฐูŽุง ุงู„ูŽู‘ุฐููŠ ุจูŽูŠู’ู†ูŽูƒูŽ ูˆูŽุจูŽูŠู’ู†ูŽู‡ู ุนูŽุฏูŽุงูˆูŽุฉูŒ ูƒูŽุฃูŽู†ูŽู‘ู‡ู ูˆูŽู„ููŠูŒู‘ ุญูŽู…ููŠู…ูŒ ูˆูŽู…ูŽุง ูŠูู„ูŽู‚ูŽู‘ุงู‡ูŽุง ุฅูู„ูŽู‘ุง ุงู„ูŽู‘ุฐููŠู†ูŽ ุตูŽุจูŽุฑููˆุง ูˆูŽู…ูŽุง ูŠูู„ูŽู‚ูŽู‘ุงู‡ูŽุง ุฅูู„ูŽู‘ุง ุฐููˆ ุญูŽุธูู‘ ุนูŽุธููŠู…ู

Not equal are the good deed and the bad deed. Repel evil by that which is better, and then the one who is hostile to you will become as a devoted friend. But none is granted it except those who are patient and none is granted it except one having a great fortune.

Surah Fussilat 41:34-35

Ibn Abbas commented on this verse, saying:

ุฃูŽู…ูŽุฑูŽ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ุงู„ู’ู…ูุคู’ู…ูู†ููŠู†ูŽ ุจูุงู„ุตูŽู‘ุจู’ุฑู ุนูู†ู’ุฏูŽ ุงู„ู’ุบูŽุถูŽุจู ูˆูŽุงู„ู’ุญูู„ู’ู…ู ุนูู†ู’ุฏูŽ ุงู„ู’ุฌูŽู‡ู’ู„ู ูˆูŽุงู„ู’ุนูŽูู’ูˆู ุนูู†ู’ุฏูŽ ุงู„ู’ุฅูุณูŽุงุกูŽุฉู ููŽุฅูุฐูŽุง ููŽุนูŽู„ููˆุง ุฐูŽู„ููƒูŽ ุนูŽุตูŽู…ูŽู‡ูู…ู ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ู…ูู†ูŽ ุงู„ุดูŽู‘ูŠู’ุทูŽุงู†ู ูˆูŽุฎูŽุถูŽุนูŽ ู„ูŽู‡ูู…ู’ ุนูŽุฏููˆูู‘ู‡ูู…ู’ ูƒูŽุฃูŽู†ูŽู‘ู‡ู ูˆูŽู„ููŠูŒู‘ ุญูŽู…ููŠู…ูŒ

Allah commands the believers to be patient when they feel angry, to be forbearing when confronted with ignorance, and to forgive when they are mistreated. If they do this, Allah will save them from Satan and subdue their enemies to them until they become like close friends.

Source:ย Tafsฤซr al-Qurโ€™ฤn al-โ€˜Aแบ“ฤซm 41:34

Allah has commanded the believers in several verses to repel evil with good by being patient, merciful, and forgiving when confronted with mistreatment.

Allah said:

ูˆูŽุงู„ูŽู‘ุฐููŠู†ูŽ ุตูŽุจูŽุฑููˆุง ุงุจู’ุชูุบูŽุงุกูŽ ูˆูŽุฌู’ู‡ู ุฑูŽุจูู‘ู‡ูู…ู’ ูˆูŽุฃูŽู‚ูŽุงู…ููˆุง ุงู„ุตูŽู‘ู„ูŽุงุฉูŽ ูˆูŽุฃูŽู†ููŽู‚ููˆุง ู…ูู…ูŽู‘ุง ุฑูŽุฒูŽู‚ู’ู†ูŽุงู‡ูู…ู’ ุณูุฑู‹ู‘ุง ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽุงู†ููŠูŽุฉู‹ ูˆูŽูŠูŽุฏู’ุฑูŽุกููˆู†ูŽ ุจูุงู„ู’ุญูŽุณูŽู†ูŽุฉู ุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉูŽ ุฃููˆู„ูŽูฐุฆููƒูŽ ู„ูŽู‡ูู…ู’ ุนูู‚ู’ุจูŽู‰ ุงู„ุฏูŽู‘ุงุฑู

Those who are patient, seeking the countenance of their Lord, and establish prayer and spend from what We have provided for them, secretly and publicly, and repel evil with good, for those will have the good end.

Surat ar-Raโ€™d 13:22

And Allah said:

ุฃููˆู„ูŽูฐุฆููƒูŽ ูŠูุคู’ุชูŽูˆู’ู†ูŽ ุฃูŽุฌู’ุฑูŽู‡ูู… ู…ูŽู‘ุฑูŽู‘ุชูŽูŠู’ู†ู ุจูู…ูŽุง ุตูŽุจูŽุฑููˆุง ูˆูŽูŠูŽุฏู’ุฑูŽุกููˆู†ูŽ ุจูุงู„ู’ุญูŽุณูŽู†ูŽุฉู ุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉูŽ ูˆูŽู…ูู…ูŽู‘ุง ุฑูŽุฒูŽู‚ู’ู†ูŽุงู‡ูู…ู’ ูŠูู†ููู‚ููˆู†ูŽ

Those will be given their reward twice for what they patiently endured and they repel evil with good, and they spend from what We have provided them.

Surat al-Qasas 28:54

And Allah said:

ุงุฏู’ููŽุนู’ ุจูุงู„ูŽู‘ุชููŠ ู‡ููŠูŽ ุฃูŽุญู’ุณูŽู†ู ุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉูŽ ู†ูŽุญู’ู†ู ุฃูŽุนู’ู„ูŽู…ู ุจูู…ูŽุง ูŠูŽุตููููˆู†ูŽ

Repel evil with what is better. We are most knowing of what they describe.

Surat al-Muโ€™minun 23:96

And Allah said:

ุงู„ูŽู‘ุฐููŠู†ูŽ ูŠูู†ููู‚ููˆู†ูŽ ูููŠ ุงู„ุณูŽู‘ุฑูŽู‘ุงุกู ูˆูŽุงู„ุถูŽู‘ุฑูŽู‘ุงุกู ูˆูŽุงู„ู’ูƒูŽุงุธูู…ููŠู†ูŽ ุงู„ู’ุบูŽูŠู’ุธูŽ ูˆูŽุงู„ู’ุนูŽุงูููŠู†ูŽ ุนูŽู†ู ุงู„ู†ูŽู‘ุงุณู ูˆูŽุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ูŠูุญูุจูู‘ ุงู„ู’ู…ูุญู’ุณูู†ููŠู†ูŽ

They are those who spend in charity during ease and hardship and who restrain their anger and pardon the people, for Allah loves those who are good.

Surat Ali Imran 3:134

The Prophet has taught us to respond with good deeds to those who are evil to us.

Aisha reported:

ู„ูŽู…ู’ ูŠูŽูƒูู†ู’ ููŽุงุญูุดู‹ุง ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ู…ูุชูŽููŽุญูู‘ุดู‹ุง ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ุตูŽุฎูŽู‘ุงุจู‹ุง ูููŠ ุงู„ู’ุฃูŽุณู’ูˆูŽุงู‚ู ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ูŠูŽุฌู’ุฒููŠ ุจูุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉู ุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉูŽ ูˆูŽู„ูŽูƒูู†ู’ ูŠูŽุนู’ูููˆ ูˆูŽูŠูŽุตู’ููŽุญู

The Prophet was not indecent, he was not obscene, he would not shout in the markets, and he would not respond to an evil deed with an evil deed, but rather he would pardon and overlook.

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2016,ย Grade:ย Sahih

Abdullah ibn Amr reported that Allah has described the Prophet as follows:

ุณูŽู…ูŽู‘ูŠู’ุชููƒูŽ ุงู„ู’ู…ูุชูŽูˆูŽูƒูู‘ู„ูŽ ู„ูŽูŠู’ุณูŽ ุจูููŽุธูู‘ ูˆูŽู„ุงูŽ ุบูŽู„ููŠุธู ูˆูŽู„ุงูŽ ุตูŽุฎูŽู‘ุงุจู ูููŠ ุงู„ุฃูŽุณู’ูˆูŽุงู‚ู ูˆูŽู„ุงูŽ ูŠูŽุฏู’ููŽุนู ุจูุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉู ุงู„ุณูŽู‘ูŠูู‘ุฆูŽุฉูŽ ูˆูŽู„ูŽูƒูู†ู’ ูŠูŽุนู’ูููˆ ูˆูŽูŠูŽุบู’ููุฑู

I have called you a trustworthy man who is neither rude nor loud in the markets, nor does he return evil with evil, but rather he pardons and forgives.

Source: Sahih Bukhari 2018,ย Grade:ย Sahih

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ู…ูŽุง ู…ูู†ู’ ุนูŽุจู’ุฏู ุธูู„ูู…ูŽ ุจูู…ูŽุธู’ู„ูŽู…ูŽุฉู ููŽูŠูุบู’ุถููŠ ุนูŽู†ู’ู‡ูŽุง ู„ูู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ุนูŽุฒูŽู‘ ูˆูŽุฌูŽู„ูŽู‘ ุฅูู„ูŽู‘ุง ุฃูŽุนูŽุฒูŽู‘ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ุจูู‡ูŽุง ู†ูŽุตู’ุฑูŽู‡ู

No servant is wronged by an oppressor and he forgives him for the sake of Allah except that Allah the Exalted will support him.

Source: Musnad Ahmad 9411, Grade: Sahih

Uqbah ibn Amir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ุตูู„ู’ ู…ูŽู†ู’ ู‚ูŽุทูŽุนูŽูƒูŽ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุนู’ุทู ู…ูŽู†ู’ ุญูŽุฑูŽู…ูŽูƒูŽ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุนู’ุฑูุถู’ ุนูŽู…ูŽู‘ู†ู’ ุธูŽู„ูŽู…ูŽูƒูŽ

Reconcile with whoever cuts you off, give to whoever deprives you, and turn away from whoever wrongs you.

Source: Musnad Ahmad 16883, Grade:ย Sahih li ghayri

In another narration, the Prophet said:

ูˆูŽุงุนู’ูู ุนูŽู…ูŽู‘ู†ู’ ุธูŽู„ูŽู…ูŽูƒูŽ

And forgive whoever wrongs you.

Source: Musnad Ahmad 16999

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ุฃูŽุฏูู‘ ุงู„ู’ุฃูŽู…ูŽุงู†ูŽุฉูŽ ุฅูู„ูŽู‰ ู…ูŽู†ู’ ุงุฆู’ุชูŽู…ูŽู†ูŽูƒูŽ ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ุชูŽุฎูู†ู’ ู…ูŽู†ู’ ุฎูŽุงู†ูŽูƒูŽ

Fulfill the trust of those to whom they are due, and do not be treacherous to the one who betrays you.

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1264,ย Grade:ย Hasan

We should try to maintain good relations with those who severe ties with us, to give to those who do not give to us, and to forgive those who oppress us. The truly virtuous person is not the one who is good to those who are good to him, but rather the one who is good to those who are evil to him.

Abdullah ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ู„ูŽูŠู’ุณูŽ ุงู„ู’ูˆูŽุงุตูู„ู ุจูุงู„ู’ู…ููƒูŽุงููุฆู ูˆูŽู„ูŽูƒูู†ู’ ุงู„ู’ูˆูŽุงุตูู„ู ุงู„ูŽู‘ุฐููŠ ุฅูุฐูŽุง ู‚ูุทูุนูŽุชู’ ุฑูŽุญูู…ูู‡ู ูˆูŽุตูŽู„ูŽู‡ูŽุง

The one who keeps good relations is not the one who recompenses the good done to him. Rather, the one who keeps good relations is the one who does so despite having been cut off by them.

Source: Sahih Bukhari 5645, Grade:ย Sahih

Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said:

ู„ูŽูŠู’ุณูŽ ุงู„ู’ูˆูŽุตู’ู„ู ุฃูŽู†ู’ ุชูŽุตูู„ูŽ ู…ูŽู†ู’ ูˆูŽุตูŽู„ูŽูƒูŽ ุฐูŽู„ููƒูŽ ุงู„ู’ู‚ูุตูŽุงุตู ูˆูŽู„ูŽูƒูู†ูŽู‘ ุงู„ู’ูˆูŽุตู’ู„ูŽ ุฃูŽู†ู’ ุชูŽุตูู„ูŽ ู…ูŽู†ู’ ู‚ูŽุทูŽุนูŽูƒูŽ

The one who reconciles is not the one who maintains relations with those who are good to him, for that is merely reciprocation. Rather, the one who reconciles is one who maintains relations with those who cut him off.

Source:ย Shuโ€™b al-Imฤn 7467

There are many instances in the life of the Prophet in which he would be good to those who were evil to him.

Anas ibn Malik reported:

ูƒูู†ู’ุชู ุฃูŽู…ู’ุดููŠ ู…ูŽุนูŽ ุฑูŽุณููˆู„ู ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ุตูŽู„ูŽู‘ู‰ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู’ู‡ู ูˆูŽุณูŽู„ูŽู‘ู…ูŽ ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู’ู‡ู ุจูุฑู’ุฏูŒ ู†ูŽุฌู’ุฑูŽุงู†ููŠูŒู‘ ุบูŽู„ููŠุธู ุงู„ู’ุญูŽุงุดููŠูŽุฉู ููŽุฃูŽุฏู’ุฑูŽูƒูŽู‡ู ุฃูŽุนู’ุฑูŽุงุจููŠูŒู‘ ููŽุฌูŽุจูŽุฐูŽ ุจูุฑูุฏูŽุงุฆูู‡ู ุฌูŽุจู’ุฐูŽุฉู‹ ุดูŽุฏููŠุฏูŽุฉู‹ ู‚ูŽุงู„ูŽ ุฃูŽู†ูŽุณูŒ ููŽู†ูŽุธูŽุฑู’ุชู ุฅูู„ูŽู‰ ุตูŽูู’ุญูŽุฉู ุนูŽุงุชูู‚ู ุงู„ู†ูŽู‘ุจููŠูู‘ ุตูŽู„ูŽู‘ู‰ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู’ู‡ู ูˆูŽุณูŽู„ูŽู‘ู…ูŽ ูˆูŽู‚ูŽุฏู’ ุฃูŽุซูŽู‘ุฑูŽุชู’ ุจูู‡ูŽุง ุญูŽุงุดููŠูŽุฉู ุงู„ุฑูู‘ุฏูŽุงุกู ู…ูู†ู’ ุดูุฏูŽู‘ุฉู ุฌูŽุจู’ุฐูŽุชูู‡ู ุซูู…ูŽู‘ ู‚ูŽุงู„ูŽ ูŠูŽุง ู…ูุญูŽู…ูŽู‘ุฏู ู…ูุฑู’ ู„ููŠ ู…ูู†ู’ ู…ูŽุงู„ู ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ุงู„ูŽู‘ุฐููŠ ุนูู†ู’ุฏูŽูƒูŽ ููŽุงู„ู’ุชูŽููŽุชูŽ ุฅูู„ูŽูŠู’ู‡ู ููŽุถูŽุญููƒูŽ ุซูู…ูŽู‘ ุฃูŽู…ูŽุฑูŽ ู„ูŽู‡ู ุจูุนูŽุทูŽุงุกู

I was walking with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, while he was wearing a Najrani sheet with a thick border. A desert Arab overtook the Prophet and forcibly pulled his clothes. I looked at the shoulder of the Prophet and I saw that the edge of his shirt had left a mark because of the strength of his pull. The man said: O Muhammad, order them to give me something from Allahโ€™s wealth which you have! The Prophet turned and he smiled, then he ordered that he be given charity.

Source: Sahih Bukhari 5738, Grade:ย Sahih

On one occasion, the Prophet was cursed by a group of Jews and he reacted with patience and forbearance.

Aisha reported: A group of Jews asked permission to visit the Prophet and when they were admitted they said, โ€œDeath be upon you.โ€ I said to them, โ€œRather, death and the curse of Allah be upon you!โ€ The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ูŠูŽุง ุนูŽุงุฆูุดูŽุฉู ุฅูู†ูŽู‘ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ูŽ ุฑูŽูููŠู‚ูŒ ูŠูุญูุจูู‘ ุงู„ุฑูู‘ูู’ู‚ูŽ ูููŠ ุงู„ู’ุฃูŽู…ู’ุฑู ูƒูู„ูู‘ู‡ู

O Aisha, Allah is kind and he loves kindness in all matters.

Source: Sahih Bukhari 6528, Grade:ย Muttafaqun Alayhi

In another narration, the Prophet said:

ูŠูŽุง ุนูŽุงุฆูุดูŽุฉู ููŽุฅูู†ูŽู‘ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ูŽ ู„ูŽุง ูŠูุญูุจูู‘ ุงู„ู’ููุญู’ุดูŽ ูˆูŽุงู„ุชูŽู‘ููŽุญูู‘ุดูŽ

O Aisha, Allah does not love obscenity and immorality.

Source: Sahih Muslim 2165, Grade:ย Sahih

Al-Bukhari cited this tradition as evidence that the Prophet did not punish non-Muslims whoย blasphemedย against him.

On another occasion, the Prophet was asked to invoke curses upon the idolaters who were persecuting the Muslims and he refused to do so.

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, was told, โ€œO Messenger of Allah, pray against the idolaters!โ€ The Prophet said:

ุฅูู†ูู‘ูŠ ู„ูŽู…ู’ ุฃูุจู’ุนูŽุซู’ ู„ูŽุนูŽู‘ุงู†ู‹ุง ูˆูŽุฅูู†ูŽู‘ู…ูŽุง ุจูุนูุซู’ุชู ุฑูŽุญู’ู…ูŽุฉู‹

Verily, I was not sent to invoke curses, but rather I was only sent as mercy.

Source: Sahih Muslim 2599, Grade:ย Sahih

Allah has mentioned that it is the practice of the prophets to patiently the abuse of those who wrong them.

Allah said:

ู‚ูŽุงู„ูŽุชู’ ู„ูŽู‡ูู…ู’ ุฑูุณูู„ูู‡ูู…ู’ ุฅูู† ู†ูŽู‘ุญู’ู†ู ุฅูู„ูŽู‘ุง ุจูŽุดูŽุฑูŒ ู…ูู‘ุซู’ู„ููƒูู…ู’ ูˆูŽู„ูŽูฐูƒูู†ูŽู‘ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ูŽ ูŠูŽู…ูู†ูู‘ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ูฐ ู…ูŽู† ูŠูŽุดูŽุงุกู ู…ูู†ู’ ุนูุจูŽุงุฏูู‡ู ูˆูŽู…ูŽุง ูƒูŽุงู†ูŽ ู„ูŽู†ูŽุง ุฃูŽู† ู†ูŽู‘ุฃู’ุชููŠูŽูƒูู… ุจูุณูู„ู’ุทูŽุงู†ู ุฅูู„ูŽู‘ุง ุจูุฅูุฐู’ู†ู ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ููŽู„ู’ูŠูŽุชูŽูˆูŽูƒูŽู‘ู„ู ุงู„ู’ู…ูุคู’ู…ูู†ููˆู†ูŽ ูˆูŽู…ูŽุง ู„ูŽู†ูŽุง ุฃูŽู„ูŽู‘ุง ู†ูŽุชูŽูˆูŽูƒูŽู‘ู„ูŽ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ูˆูŽู‚ูŽุฏู’ ู‡ูŽุฏูŽุงู†ูŽุง ุณูุจูู„ูŽู†ูŽุง ูˆูŽู„ูŽู†ูŽุตู’ุจูุฑูŽู†ูŽู‘ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ูฐ ู…ูŽุง ุขุฐูŽูŠู’ุชูู…ููˆู†ูŽุง ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ููŽู„ู’ูŠูŽุชูŽูˆูŽูƒูŽู‘ู„ู ุงู„ู’ู…ูุชูŽูˆูŽูƒูู‘ู„ููˆู†ูŽ

Their messengers said to them: We are only men like you, but Allah confers favor upon whom He wills of His servants. It has never been for us to bring you evidence except by permission of Allah, and upon Allah let the believers rely. Why should we not rely upon Allah while He has guided us to our ways? We will surely be patient against whatever harm you cause us, and let them depend upon Allah those who would rely.

Surat Ibrahim 14:11-12

In order for Muslims to emulate these beautiful examples, the Prophet would tell stories of others prophets in the past who asked Allah to forgive their people even as they were being beaten and harmed by them.

Abdullah ibn Masโ€™ud reported: I saw the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, tell the story of a prophet who was beaten by his people and he wiped the blood from his face, saying:

โ€ ุฑูŽุจูู‘ ุงุบู’ููุฑู’ ู„ูู‚ูŽูˆู’ู…ููŠ ููŽุฅูู†ูŽู‘ู‡ูู…ู’ ู„ุงูŽ ูŠูŽุนู’ู„ูŽู…ููˆู†ูŽ

My Lord, forgive my people for they do not know.

Source: Sahih Bukhari 6530, Grade:ย Muttafaqun Alayhi

An-Nawawi comments on this tradition, saying:

ูููŠู‡ู ู…ูŽุง ูƒูŽุงู†ููˆุง ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู’ู‡ู ุตูŽู„ูŽูˆูŽุงุชู ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ู ูˆูŽุณูŽู„ูŽุงู…ูู‡ู ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู’ู‡ูู…ู’ ู…ูู†ูŽ ุงู„ู’ุญูู„ู’ู…ู ูˆูŽุงู„ุชูŽู‘ุตูŽุจูู‘ุฑู ูˆูŽุงู„ู’ุนูŽูู’ูˆู ูˆูŽุงู„ุดูŽู‘ููŽู‚ูŽุฉู ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ู‚ูŽูˆู’ู…ูู‡ูู…ู’ ูˆูŽุฏูุนูŽุงุฆูู‡ูู…ู’ ู„ูŽู‡ูู…ู’ ุจูุงู„ู’ู‡ูุฏูŽุงูŠูŽุฉู ูˆูŽุงู„ู’ุบููู’ุฑูŽุงู†ู ูˆูŽุนูุฐู’ุฑูู‡ูู…ู’ ูููŠ ุฌูู†ูŽุงูŠูŽุชูู‡ูู…ู’ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุฃูŽู†ู’ููุณูู‡ูู…ู’ ุจูุฃูŽู†ูŽู‘ู‡ูู…ู’ ู„ูŽุง ูŠูŽุนู’ู„ูŽู…ููˆู†ูŽ

In this tradition is what the Prophet practiced of forbearance, patience, forgiveness, and compassion for his people, his supplication for them to receive guidance and to be forgiven, and for them to be excused for their sins as they did not know.

Source: Sharh Sahih Muslim 1792

Hence, we should strive to practice patience, mercy, and forgiveness whenever we are confronted with abuse. We should control our anger, pardon people, and supplicate for Allah to guide those who have gone astray. If we do so, we will win the hearts of our enemies and turn them into our close friends.

Success comes from Allah, and Allah knows best.